What is a Family?

Brand Newz wants to ask you a question. “Have you ever been at a event so moving that you decided to inquire about what inspired such a occassion”?

Well BNz wants to thank Hadassah Jones that did so. She asked a group of people “What does the family mean to them” at a block party in North Carolina. In these uncertain days and times of turmoil we tend to take so much for granted, that sometimes it takes a little simple action and, or question to initiate reflection and put things back in there proper perspective inspite of what the world chooses to promote.

There is a great song that this story might compare to by R&B legends The O’Jays titled “Family Reunion”. Everyone would do well to find it asap and play it a couple of times after seeing Hadassah’s investigation and reading our research about family. “God bless you”!

Family denotes a domestic group of people, or a number of domestic groups linked through descent (demonstrated or stipulated) from a common ancestor, marriage or adoption.

There is a crisis of unprecedented magnitude in the households of families’ especially in the black community.

Father absence and single parenting homes are among the top dilemmas in the bane of the black community, influencing black boys, and increasingly girls as well to become failures in school, and out of controlled immature criminal actions, while increasing their chance to become recipients of economic hardship, and beneficiaries of the grim cycle.

However, this growing concern has begun as a growing problem but deteriorated into a state. This concern is not new, what is new is the understanding of how profound and extensive the declining of marriage based homes affects the community as a whole.
Researchers suggest that roughly 70 percent of black babies are born out of wedlock, with little prospect of significant decline. Contrary to popular opinion, “most ‘baby mamas’ don’t become single mothers because they no longer believe in two parent homes and marriage. The primary reason is instead attributed to the lack of qualified candidates for establishing a family, the male.

There has been some explanation to this astonishing catch-22 including low-income, disproportionate incarceration, unemployment and early death of black men make marriage almost impossible in some instances. These factors are believed to raise the percentages of black babies born in wedlock.

However, America knows that black men are not born criminal minded dropouts. What most consider being the major factor in this crisis is the absence of the fathers and their influence in the black home. Researchers believe it is fact that black women are far more likely than black men to complete high school, attend college and earn the professional credentials that would make them “eligible” for marriage socially.

Both reasons can be proven to be true. But fatherless boys generally become ineligible to be effective loving husbands, though these same individuals are no less likely to become fathers, thus they and their children fall into the patterns that damaged them as children.

The absence of father not only stagers the growth and development of the males it festers the understandings of sacrificial love in daughters. This dysfunctional relationship undermines little girls’ significantly.

Interestingly, some blame the black church for encouraging the decline of the black family, by moderating virtually out of existence its once stern sanctions against extramarital sex and childbirth and by accepting the present contemporary movement or simply shacking up.

How to start healing the Black Family?

In truth, though, the decisive condition there is no wrong place to start besides the obvious of being present. Strong families must interact with each other; feel close to each other and be caring for one another.

Research studies suggest that the more strength’s a family has, the better off their children will be. Children’s whose parents are vocal in how they feel when they are tranquil, serene or happy are more likely than children of opposite feeling parents, to be positively involved in school and less likely to act out or have emotional problems.

Families that tend to have regular routines like eating together and doing hose chores usually have children who do well in school and have greater self-control. Keeping these everyday routines has been directly linked to adolescent delinquent behaviors, reduction and drug use. Quality time is also important in the happiness of family relationships.

Positive two-way communication is also associated with the well-being of a child’s rational development. National studies show that adolescents who have parents that use praise and who go to their parents for advice are less likely to have behavioral and emotional problems.

Also when parents use praise and encouragement, to display appreciation of schoolwork, children tend to do better in school and show more socially positive behaviors. Adolescents with these types of relationships qualities are less likely to be suspended or expelled from school, and are less likely to suffer from behavioral and emotional problems.

So parents we have supplied the materials, laid the foundation and the steps to a strong productive family, now it is your responsibilities to build.